Building a Deeper Connection With Your Partner

Author: Alana Burton(CTA, MBACP)
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Whether you’ve been together 10 weeks or 10 years, you might be at a comfortable stage of things with your partner but you’re also wondering if things could be better. What’s the next level of fulfilment and is there a deeper connection to build with your partner? If there is, how can couples therapy support you in this process?

Let’s dive into the art of building a connection so deep, it’s practically oceanic. We’re talking about forging a bond with your partner that’s not just surface-level; it’s rooted in understanding, communication, and a sprinkle of Transactional Analysis magic.

Using TA in Couples Work

So, what’s Transactional Analysis? Imagine it as your relationship GPS, helping you navigate the intricate highways of communication. Developed by Dr. Eric Berne, this modality is all about dissecting the ways we interact and the roles we play in our relationships.

First up, let’s embrace the concept of “Parent,” “Adult,” and “Child” modes. In every interaction, we unconsciously switch between these roles. When you catch yourself slipping into a parental role, take a step back. Are you nurturing or maybe a tad too controlling? The key here is balance. Aim for a blend of care without overshadowing your partner’s independence.

Next, the “Adult” mode. Picture it as the rational, data-driven scientist in you. When faced with a challenge, approach it with reason and empathy. Leave behind judgments and assumptions; they’re like roadblocks on your path to connection.

Now, onto the “Child” mode – the playful, emotional side. Allow yourself to be vulnerable, and encourage your partner to do the same. Share dreams, fears, and, yes, even those embarrassing childhood stories. Embracing vulnerability creates a bridge to deeper emotional connection.

Communication and Synchronisation

Communication, the lifeline of any relationship, gets a makeover with Transactional Analysis. Instead of playing the blame game, focus on “I” statements. Express your feelings, needs, and desires without pointing fingers. It’s like turning your GPS from “Recalculating” to a smooth, scenic route.

In the grand dance of relationships, synchronisation is key. Keep an eye on your partner’s cues and adjust your steps accordingly. Sometimes a two-step, sometimes a waltz – the beauty lies in the harmony you create together.

So, there you have it – a crash course in forging a connection that’s not just deep but also enduring. Remember, relationships are like fine wine; they get better with time, attention, and a sprinkle of Transactional Analysis wisdom. Happy connecting, lovebirds!

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